There comes a time in every relationship (yes, even in lesbian relationships) where you have to meet her partner’s parents. We all know it’s coming and even if it’s brought up in a casual way, meeting another set of parents and facing their expectations can be stressful.
It’s common to avoid meeting her parents but eventually the day comes when she finally loses it and you know you better get your shit together and look real nice because you’re meeting her parents. Put on a smile and try to sneak some shots of whiskey because you might just need it.
Here are some tips on “killing it” when you make your first impression:
We already touched on this, but make yourself look presentable. Be sure you’re wearing something that is clean so don’t try to pull out last week’s cardigan and Febreeze it because honestly that never works. Use common sense for the occasion. Dress appropriately and dont be afraid to take her advice. We suggest you avoid going too frilly unless you’re meeting at a “Strawberry Social” or other stuffy event. Look good but be comfortable! There is a balance to everything.
Bring a tiny gift. I don’t mean like diamond ring tiny but perhaps a nice bottle of wine or box of chocolates. Talk to your girlfriend about what her parents might like.
When you walk in, be very nice, polite and passive. Later on, you can take the spotlight, produce some good hearty laughter with your witty banter and jokes but at first tone it down a bit. There’s plenty of time to showcase your personality so don’t try to get it all out at once.
If it’s dinner at their place, eat the food they give you no matter your tastes unless you’re deathly allergic or are adverse to eating meat. That is your only loop hole. You have no say in this. If the relationship works out you can give them a run-down of your dietary habits later but now is not the time. It’s really your partner’s responsibility to share any special dietary concerns.
DO NOT FLIRT WITH HER MOTHER. You will have cocktails, you will get flirty but fucking keep it in your pants. It might seem fine and dandy but know when she calls her daughter later that you have just messed up big time and she will forever say that you tried to seduce her.
If you are a butch lesbian try not to out-masculine her father. LET HIM BE THE MAN FOR NOW. Later on when they love the fuck out of you only then can you settle down with a beer and help out in the garage.
No PDA. Public displays of affection can be a giant freak out. Would you want to watch your SO’s parents making out? No? Then fucking take five on that you’re not at a party.
The last point is never expect that they’ll like you. You tried your best but you can’t always be for everyone. You might not get invited back for a while but if you were on your best behaviour and didn’t embarrass their daughter then she’ll still love you and that is really all that matters.
