There is a sad truth that comes with being a lesbian and that is that it’s not easy to find somebody. Most lesbians get to this point where it feels like there is a lesbian circle just dating each other. Even with new gay bars it’s just not the same for lesbians to walk up and flirt, rejection happens because there seems to be so many more straight girls. So finally you turn to online dating. Want to know a secret? Many studies show that a huge majority of lesbians have secretly tried online dating. Don’t worry, it’s not as taboo as it used to be.

So finally you have your profile made but what comes next and what do you do? Here are a few tips on how to guide yourself through online dating and find somebody to be in a relationship with. Pro tip: Hook up’s are generally a lot easier, if that’s what you’re looking for then take this guide with a grain of salt.

The first mistake you’re going to make is most likely window shopping. Tinder brought the idea of dating because of looks to a whole new level. So pretty soon you’re scrolling through basing everything off of looks. Sometimes not even reading the bio’s or the descriptions. You may favorite a profile and then realize you actually have nothing in common with this person except for the fact that you both think they’re beautiful.

So tip one for online dating is to go slow and take your time with each profile reading through it. Physical attraction definitely catches us first but sometimes people we didn’t expect to like can become appealing to us so make sure that you’re really reviewing somebody and take a few chances.

The next problem is thinking that you’re going to find somebody right away. No perfect person is going to come out of the mist on just one day of looking. You’re going to have a lot of messages that get ignored or go unread and you’re going to have to keep trying. I think most people give up quickly and then end up making a new profile just a month later. So stick it out, go on some dates and have some funny stories to tell. Just make sure you’re being safe.

Make sure that you’re presenting your real self. Yeah, it sounds crazy but remember that you’re a human. How interested are you really in the things you say love. Is this your true personality?

Try a few dating sites to see what ones you like the most (might I suggest GirlfriendsMeet). If you like navigating the site you are more likely to have a positive mind set about it.

Take it light, have fun and meet new people. If you find your true love from this that’s great but in the mean time have some stories to tell. Go out for a few drinks, dress up nice and who knows you might even meet some cool friends.

Don’t give up right away give everything a full chance. Have some online dating tips? Share with us!